in the past few weeks i’ve gotten a handful of messages from people who found my blog via a photo i’d posted eons ago that had been tagged pegging.
all of them assumed i wanted to be the one wearing the phallus, all of them assumed i was accepting applicants, & all of them were male.
i am sexually submissive, i am monogamous, & the photo was of two women.
way to pay attention.This brings up something I’ve wondered about from time to time. I’m not assuming the author’s “I’m submissive” is in reference to whether or not she’d don a strap-on (or the like), the implication being a submissive wouldnot do that very thing… but it makes me wonder what people’s views are on that topic. I’ve heard dominant men say that pegging, or any other submissive-on-dominant anal penetration, is a submissive act if done at the dominant partner’s instruction/command. And I’m fully aware that anal stimulation feels good (or can), regardless of gender. And if that’s how you roll, good on ya!
But I’ve played many scenarios in my head, trying to come up with even one that didn’t make me view the recipient in a submissive light. And I couldn’t do it. I view penetrating as a dominant act. I view being penetrated as a submissive act. And being instructed to penetrate my partner would squick me out completely.
It’s hard for me to imagine pegging Master unless we were playing a scene out where we switched as well. Not saying it can’t be done, but I think it’s hard to picture. Same with oral sex. Hard to imagine maintaining dominance while giving oral.
Then you haven’t been with a dominant man. Because I assure you, the ones I know would OWN you with their mouths. And any dominant who says he doesn’t do ‘that’ solely because of role doesn’t understand dominance and submission.
At all.I have to agree withsubgirlygirl. I can’t imagine a moment when my wife is more under my control than when I’m going down on her. A woman’s clitoris and g-spot, when manipulated by a skilled dominant, are the key to bypassing just about every gateway in her mind. Ego? Bye bye. Pride? Gone. Sense of dignity? Ha. Societal need to feel “strong” or “independent?” A distant fantasy. A well-performed bout of cunnilingus has never failed to render any of my partners, including my wife (who is now, of course, my only partner) one hundred percent submissive. It’s like a reset button. In fact, despite my attempts to give her little mantras, the only thing she’s capable of saying during said session is, “Please, Sir.”